things i find annoying

i will not mention any names or give clues as to whom i speak, but some people are out of their GD minds.

as a single mom of one, it wasnt easy. altho i dont remember the hard times now, i do remember working 2-3 jobs, having shitty gigs with asshole bosses, taking abuse to survive. not much help from family, not much sleep, my wants on the back burner, and the boy missed out on a lot. when i hear about the struggles of a particular single mom, it makes me want to punch a baby.

this mom doesn't work. has a car and insurance paid for, cell phone, health insurance, child support, and 15 days a month off from mothering because her ex has joint custody. she attends school 2 days a week to work on yet another degree she wont use.all of the kids tuitions/sports/fun/clothing/dental/medical... lets say everything is paid by the dad. the mom has a full time boyfriend, girls nights out, weekends away, and when she has the kids, there is always a family member to help out.
this is not good enough.

i want her to meet an actual single mom of 3. who works until she colaspes, borrows from peter to pay paul. cant ever go to the doctors because she has no health ins because its pay rent or get well. hasnt had a date in years, no child support, let alone free weekends. christmas is a nightmare, misses class trips, basketball games, prom nights because she has 3 mouths to feed. goes without everyday and never complains. does the job and is grateful to get thru another month.

there are no $14 cocktails or center city brunches in her everyday. no fancy haircuts or new outfits. forget about an education. that is never even an option. that is a privledge only the privledged get. and still, oddly, they dont complain.

sometimes when i hear about this single moms "hard life" , i want to grip her up by her neck and shake her. DONT YOU SEE HOW LUCKY YOU ARE!!!??? LOOK AROUND! NO ONE HAS IT THIS EASY! but she'll never get it. never know how insulting it is to the single moms who went without everyday and still got up and did it all over again.

i see her getting married to this guy. and living the same life she did before. never working. acting as if life is so hard. never being able to please her, until this guy has enough. but then she'll get half of another house, some of his pension and savings, maybe some alimony. another car? blah blah blah. then she can move back in with her parents while they take care of her again. until the next dude.

do us a favor, at least get your tubes tied. i know that hurts you on any future child support, but its much tougher to snag the next man when you have 2 baby daddys.